Help Someone You Love Deal with Depression Simply and Effectively

Depression is like being trapped in darkness with no spark of hope anywhere. It makes any relationship virtually impossible to maintain. You can deal with your depression in a simple and effective way in the privacy of your home computer, laptop, iPad, or smart phone.

Ron Wilkins, in his book, Removing Emotional Pain, describes depression as the natural consequence of dwelling on negative thoughts. Unchecked, it inevitably leads to more dangerous emotional and health situations.

Depression can be equally frustrating to those who are around you. They can see all kinds of answers all around you; but you can’t see them in your self-imposed darkness. It’s self-defeating. They see solutions and may tend to blame you because you can’t see them too.

Depression is an emotional downer that can make the simple acts of getting out of bed too much to handle. It can lead to masking behaviors such as drinking or drugs. Intellectually, you know those things are destructive but at least you’re not forced to deal with your negative thoughts when you’re under the influence.

Popular approaches can include meds to lift your mood while encouraging you to relive the painful experiences that caused your depression in the first place.

If, as Wilkins claims, depression is the result of “dwelling on negative thoughts,” then the simple answer is “don’t dwell on negative thoughts!” Such thoughts are the ones that occur over and over again without any real-time provocation. The thoughts are an emotional response, a memory, of a painful event suffered in the past - sometimes many years in the past. When these memories pop into your mind as negative thoughts; and we mentally chew or ruminate on them; it can become just like the original incident all over again and you can become depressed.

But, it’s all thoughts and recollections. It’s not happening all over again in most cases – it’s a memory.

The answer to depression is so simple that many people have trouble accepting it. The most effective way to control the negative thinking that results in recurring depression is "simply choose not to think about it."

When a negative thought that usually leads to depression pops into your mind, simply say to yourself out loud, “I will not think about that.” Do it again if the idea pops up again: “I will not think about that.”

When a negative thought questions your worth, simply say to yourself out loud, “I will not think about that.”

When a negative thought tells you that you are a loser, simply say to yourself out loud, “I will not think about that.”

Someone said, “That’s easier said than done.”

Not really. You have the innate authority to decide what you want to think about. If a thought makes you depressed, don’t think that thought. It’s your choice. As you make that choice again and again, your subconscious remembers how you like to respond and will start to make your response automatically. It’s amazing how quickly this can happen.

Furthermore, you were made with a subconscious mind that has over time formed the opinion that you like being depressed. So its response is to give you more and more selected thoughts to help you be depressed.

The process of choosing not to dwell on those thoughts will, over time, convince your subconscious that you do not want to think about that those things anymore. It’s this process that creates the habit of peace and breaks the habit of depression.

At some point, you won't even realize you are thinking depressing thoughts because your subconscious is automatically responding to the thoughts before they become conscious thoughts.

Nothing could be more effective than having your subconscious mind handle your depression for you before you even think about it.

Resources you can use

Help someone you love deal effectively with depression. Take 3 minutes to learn more at http://findingpersonalpeace.com/s002.

You can use this idea for just about any negative emotion or habit that bothers you including depression.

I hope Finding Personal Peace helps you with your depression as much as it helped me with my anger.

Rod Peeks

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Help Someone You Love Deal with Stress Simply and Effectively

Stress is epidemic today. At its worst, stress is the knife-edge that pierces every fiber of our being. Even moderate stress makes virtually any relationship difficult to maintain. But there’s hope. You can deal with your stress in a simple and effective way right there in the privacy of your home computer, laptop, iPad, or smart phone.

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Time Magazine describes stress as the cause of up to 85% of the physical illness in our country today.  Stress is often the natural consequence of dwelling on negative thoughts. Unchecked, it inevitably leads to serious illness and even death.

Stress can blind you to the reality around you. You simply can’t see a way out because the pain hurts too much to think rationally. People around you can suggest answers, but you can’t see them through the pain. It is all too easy to transfer your stress to other people at home or at work. If they would just leave you alone! It’s something that you have to work out yourself. You end up hurting all your important relationships because those who love you see solutions and may become frustrated with you because you can’t see them too.

The pain of stress makes the simple acts of getting out of bed too much to handle. It can lead to masking behaviors such as drinking or drugs. Intellectually, you know those things are destructive but at least you don’t feel the pain when you’re under the influence.

Most popular treatments include meds to alter your moods while encouraging you to relive or work through the painful experiences that caused your stress in the first place.

Ron Wilkins claims in “Removing Emotional Pain”, that stress is the natural result of “dwelling on negative thoughts.” If that’s the case, then the simple answer is “don’t dwell on negative thoughts!”

Very often such thoughts occur over and over again without any real-time provocation. The thoughts are an emotional recollection, just a memory, of a past painful event - sometimes many years in the past. When these memories pop into your mind as negative thoughts; and we mentally chew or ruminate on them; it can become just like the original incident all over again.

But, it’s a thought. It’s not happening all over again in most cases – it’s a memory.

The best way of addressing stress is so simple that many people have trouble accepting it. The most effective way to control the negative thinking that results in recurring stress is "simply choose not to think about it."

When a negative thought that you know leads to stress pops into your mind, simply say to yourself out loud, “I will not think about that.” Do it again if the idea pops up again.

When you realize that you’re starting to feel down because of something churning around your mind, simply say to yourself out loud, “I will not think about that.”

If you start to blame yourself because of something you’re only thinking about, simply say to yourself out loud, “I will not think about that.”

Someone said, “That’s easier said than done.”

Not really. You have the built-in authority to decide what you want to think about. If a thought causes you pain, don’t think that thought. It’s your choice! As you make that choice again and again, your subconscious remembers how you like to respond and will start to make your response automatically. It’s amazing how quickly this can happen.

Furthermore, you were made with a subconscious mind that has over time formed the opinion that you like being stressed.  In its effort to give you what you like, your subconscious gives you more and more thoughts that cause you stress when you dwell on them.

The process of choosing not to dwell on those thoughts will, over time, convince your subconscious that you do not want to think about that those things anymore. It’s this process that creates the habit of peace and breaks the habit of stress.

When that happens, you won't even realize you are thinking stressful thoughts because your subconscious handles them automatically before they become conscious thoughts.

Nothing could be more effective than having your subconscious mind handle your stress for you before you even think about it.

Resources you can use

Help someone you love deal effectively with stress. Take 3 minutes right now to learn more at http://findingpersonalpeace.com/s003.

You can use this idea for just about any negative emotion or habit that bothers you including stress.

I hope Finding Personal Peace helps you with your stress as much as it helped me with my anger.

Rod Peeks

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Help Someone You Love Find Personal Peace Simply and Effectively

Life can be so frustrating at times. Distractions, lack of commitment, feeling rejected, entertaining too much mental chatter, prevailing sadness, and all sorts of negative emotions can become overwhelming. At its least, lack of peace can diminish our effectiveness. At its worst, it can be completely debilitating. You can find personal peace in a simple and effective way right there in the privacy of your home computer, laptop, iPad, or smart phone.

Do you ever feel like you’re being pulled this way and pushed that way? Do you have way too many unfinished projects because of distractions? Do you find important study, work, or meditation interrupted by other equally important thoughts that are interrupting you at the wrong time?

Is frustrating anxiety or listlessness the rule in your life instead of the exception? Do you feel like life is passing you by . . . like there are places you should be and things you should be doing that you just can’t quite accomplish?

Are you dealing with habits that leave you annoyed and down on yourself?

What we’re trying to describe is a general lack of peace.

If this becomes acute, resulting in depression or worse, it can be quite disconcerting and you should consider what I’m going to say next.

A common element in the lack of peace is a thought that acts as a downer on your emotions. These thoughts can continue for many years. When we let those thoughts take away our ability to do what we need to do, it can create an unhealthy situation for you.

If we let those thoughts lead us to anxiety, to becoming overwhelmed, or to being incapable of dealing with the required daily routine of life, we need to do something about it.

In a moment, you’ll see a very simple process you can use as often as you like to overcome your extended grief. Because I don’t want to leave you upset, I’m going to tell you about it and then direct you to try it – after you know what to expect.

Most negative emotions, however mild or intense, are initiated by a thought. The thoughts are typically about something that has happened in the past. It other words, it’s a memory, not reality, that is bothering us.

Right now, I want you to pause and think about something that leaves you feeling negative. But DON’T dwell on it. Immediately say to yourself, out loud, “I’m not going to think about that.” If it recurs, say it again

You’ll soon discover that the negative thought will go away. It will go away every time you demand that it go away.

You can deal with personal peace in such a simple way that many people have trouble accepting it. The most effective way to control negative thinking that steals your peace is to say to yourself, out loud, "I will not to think about that." Do it as often as necessary and do it out loud. Repeat as necessary - "I will not to think about that."

Someone said, “That’s easier said than done.”

Not really. You have the innate authority to decide what you want to think about. If a thought steals your peace, don’t think that thought. It’s your choice. As you make that choice again and again, your subconscious remembers how you like to respond and will start to make your response automatically. It’s amazing how quickly this can happen.

Furthermore, you were made with a subconscious mind that has over time formed the opinion that you like being frustrated and upset. To accommodate what you like to do, your subconscious will continue to give your frustrating thoughts.

The process of choosing not to dwell on those thoughts will, over time, convince your subconscious that you do not want to think about that those things anymore. It’s this process that creates the habit of peace and breaks the habit of frustration and anxiety.

At that point, you won't even realize you are thinking negative thoughts. Before they become conscious thoughts, you handle them subconsciously.

At some point, you won't even realize you are thinking negative thoughts because your subconscious is automatically responding to the thoughts before they become conscious thoughts.

Resources you can use

If someone you love could Find Personal Peace, would you take 3 minutes to learn more at http://findingpersonalpeace.com/s006?

You can use this idea for just about any negative emotion or habit that bothers you including needing more peace.

I hope Finding Personal Peace helps you find as much peace as it did for me!

Rod Peeks

Thanks for reading our blog today. I invite you to respond in several ways: (1) Comment in the space below if you agree or disagree with what I’ve said. A dialogue could be interesting for all; (2) Share the post with your friends using the buttons below; and (3) sign up to get an email with each new post. There’s a place to do that on the right. Then you won’t have to remember to look for our subsequent posts. Thanks again!