Do You Have Sexual Issues?

Right up front – this is not a moralizing post rejecting or condemning any of your adult-only, mutually-consensual sexual activities. If you are involved in activities that you and another consenting adult enjoy, more power to you.

I'm also not going to try to post a tantalizing list of issues here. I'm sure the imagination of men and women to enjoy sex far outreaches my ability to enumerate their creativity.

So I'll try to make some points in categorical terms being as specific as I can.

(1)     If you're involved in sexual activity or have been involved in sexual activity in the past that causes you to feel guilty, ashamed, or causes you to have continuing negative emotions, you need to do something about that. We'll suggest something later that might help.

(2)     If you're involved in sexual activity with a child, you definitely need to do something about that. Children cannot legally give consent so don't even begin to think or hint differently.

(3)     If you're involved in sexual activity with a consenting almost-adult under the legal age of consent, you're treading on dangerous ground and you need to do something about that; especially if you're over the age of consent.

(4)     If you're involved in sexual activity with an adult who does not willingly give consent, you need to do something about that. Stop rationalizing with things like “I have a right ..., etc.”

(5)     If you're involved in sexual activity that hurts your partner emotionally, even though they may give consent in the heat of passion, you need to do something about that.

(6)     If you use sexual activity to gain power or leverage over another person, you need to do something about that.

(7)     If you are the victim of sexual assault, and that assault continues to haunt you emotionally, you need to do something about that. The choices about what you can and should do will become easier as you gain control over your negative thinking.

Seven times we've said, “You need to do something about that.” So what do you do? Here's what we suggest:

Sexual activity always begins with a thought. You can't use the expression made popular by the 1970s comedian, Flip Wilson, “The devil made me do it.” In actuality, “the devil only made you think about it.” What you do from there is under your control.

From the victim's perspective, the pain is revisited after a negative thought pops into your mind.

So when the thought occurs that may lead to one of the issues in the list above, you have it within your power to deal with and dismiss that negative thought before passion or pain overwhelm common sense.

When you exercise the power and authority you have over your thoughts, you're in a position to make rational decisions about how you deal with unsatisfying situation.

The only objective of Finding Personal Peace is for you to know that you are the master of your thoughts; even thoughts as powerful as anticipated sexual desire or the remembrance of sexual pain.

God bless,



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