You’re holding a key . . .

That’s right! You’re holding a key that could be very important to somebody you know. You’re reading this post and learning about an idea where someone can find the personal peace that they want very much.

What am I talking about? Peace is an elusive concept for so many people. They hurt for all kinds of reasons – secret reasons in many cases – and they don’t know what to do to find relief or peace. They stew in anger, fear, insecurity, depression, anxiety, you name it. They stew and they hurt and they don’t know that a possible solution is as close as a phone call or email from you.

Maybe you don’t like to intrude. After all, your friend never confided in you about their pain. Wouldn’t it be insensitive for you to bring it up? Our culture is so closed and so self-protective. Unless someone specifically asks you to help them, you just can’t get involved, can you?

Maybe you’re reluctant to risk being wrong. After all, this might be the wrong answer for them. Then you would be the irresponsible person that steered them wrong. You don’t want that to happen, do you?

So how could you give them the key without intruding and with minimum risk to your self-esteem?

You could visit the blog yourself and read the posts about Finding Personal Peace. You could actually visit the Finding Personal Peace website and check it out for yourself. Information reduces the risk of being wrong.

Then maybe you could say something like, “It’s none of my business, but you’ve seemed to be a little stressed lately. I visited a website that talked about dealing with stress in a different way. Can I give you the website address?”

So there, you’ve done it. They can decide for themselves if there’s anything there for them.

Or, you could just forget about the key and let them continue to hurt in privacy. What’s it going to be?

I hope you decide to help use the key to help someone you love!

God bless



P S. The key is one the link at the top of the website when you click here.

RSS for Peace

In the Internet world, as you may know, RSS stands for Real Simple Syndication. It is a clever and easy way that you can keep up with all the postings of any website you like without having to visit the site frequently to see what’s new. You can set up a Google Reader account and very easily attach an RSS feed from the website to your Google Reader. Then you go to the reader whenever you like and find out all the new postings on your favorite pages.

We’re changing that definition just a tiny bit. In our case, RSS means Real Simple Solution. It means that anyone who wants peace can find it without investing a lot of money or a lot of pain in finding it.

A popular trend in professional circles has you “working through” the painful events that are causing you to have anger, depression, anxiety, or whatever today. “Working through” means revisiting the pain and dealing with it with hours and hours of the professional’s help.

Dr. Richard Carlson, the author of “Stop Thinking, Start Living” argues persuasively that thinking about pain does not cause it to go away. He says that “negative emotions grow with attention.” He also says that “you can’t think yourself out of depression.”

So one choice is to pay someone a lot of money to assist you in augmenting your pain under the pretense of making it go away.

Another option is to accept medications designed to help you deal with (read mask) your pain.

Actually, most people, in view of the obvious lack of attraction of the prior two choices, just struggle along pretending life is normal as it is.

That’s a shame because the RSS for Peace is so simple that most people can’t accept that it works. The basic principle is that you have the authority to decide what you want to think about; and you can choose not to dwell on thoughts that cause negative emotions and cause you pain.

By the end of the first online session in Finding Personal Peace, you’ll know all you need to know to begin to experience peace. The remaining sessions give you the repetitions you need to make new habits; and give you reasons for believing in what you’re doing.

If you want a Real Simple Solution for peace, click here to learn more.

God bless,

Would You Rather Be Depressed?

It's an unusual question, but one that needs to be asked. Do you really want to feel better or are you secretly enjoying the empowerment that negative emotions can give you.

Empowerment? Exactly what am I talking about?

You have an excuse for entering and ending all kinds of personal relationships. They don't usually last long because your depression gets in the way.

You have an excuse for going from job to job looking for one that is fulfilling.

You have a reason for being irresponsible regarding finances.

You have a reason for messing around with things that are dangerous because you're looking for relief for your depression.

You can skip out on major decisions because nothing feels right.

Lots of people sympathize with you because “you're not well.”

You can even avoid seeking help because it’s probably not going to work anyway.

Am I being too harsh? If you take it that way, I apologize.

My motive is to shake you up a little bit. You see, I’ve observed depression at a pretty close distance for a number of years. I'm not a professional; I just know what appears to be a fairly simple conclusion: some people enjoy being depressed because there's no responsibility involved as I've described it.

So why change if you like it? Maybe you get your gratification from emotional pain. I can almost identify with that.

But the simple fact is, you weren't made to be that way. If there were a way that you could be rid of most or all the negative emotions that swirl around you, would that be worth taking a look; especially if it doesn't involve delving into either your past or your pocketbook?

There's a rich, fulfilling life available to you if you didn't feel so miserable all the time.

Don't be the person Shakespeare talks about, " Make not your thoughts your prisons."

All the best,


P.S. Want to get out of your prison? To check it out, click here.

Like Water Off a Duck’s Back

Do you know people who go through life and NEVER get down? Whatever happens, they just shrug it off like “water off a duck's back.” Infuriating, isn't it?

Insult; shrug it off. Called a name; shrug it off. Lied about; shrug it off. Cheated; shrug it off. Ridiculed; shrug it off. Makes you want to just shake them; but they’d shrug that off too.

You walk down the same pathways they do. When the same things happen to you, you do a quick boil and either lash outwardly to put them in their place; or you lash inwardly and store up vaults of vile retribution that you'll use some day. It might not be so bad if it stopped there.

But, you dredge up the offenses again and again. You relive the pain again and again. You get angry, indignant, embarrassed, or whatever you felt the first time again and again.

And each time you revisit the pain, your emotions slid a little more down the path toward depression; toward stress; toward lashing out to try to transfer the pain to some place or someone else.

Why are some people able to deal with offensive actions like “water off a duck's back?”

It's simple. They control what they choose to think about; and they choose not to think about hurtful things. If a response is necessary, they can make a more reasoned response because their minds are not churning with anger and whatever else is there.

You can learn to react the same way. It's a process of breaking up an old habit and making a new habit that serves you better.

That takes a little time and a little effort. That's what we talk about in Finding Personal Peace.

God bless,



P.S. Become a “water-off-a-duck's-back” person today by clicking here.

"Fearfully and Wonderfully Made"

The title is an expression from the Bible, but it's not restricted only to people who ascribe to the Bible and its teachings.

We’re not going to get into a religious argument here.

We are all made with a wonderful capacity to love; to be happy; to be productive; to live a rewarding life. This is proven time and again simply by observing people.

We all know people who are happy; people who do good things; and, people who succeed in their lives without any explicit expression of any faith system. People have a capacity to make good decisions, to learn and practice good habits, to be kind, to prosper, and to otherwise be productive, contributing citizens in their communities.

So why is it that some people don't experience this productive life and others do?

Avoiding the temptation to launch a theological discussion here, I’m going to suggest that many people miss out on a fulfilling life because they allow themselves to become distracted by dwelling on one or more bad things that have happened to them.

Painful things happen. There's no avoiding that. But many of us relive those painful things over and over again as we dwell on the negative thoughts that pop into our minds. We do this so often that it becomes a habit – a habit of negativity.

This habit takes precedence and limits out ability to experience what we’re designed to experience. It's part of our nature – it’s how we’re made - that enables habits of that which we repetitively do. So when we dwell on the pain again and again, dwelling on the pain becomes a habit; and that habit leads to an unfulfilled life.

It doesn't have to be that way. There are simple things we can do to break this restricting habit and make new and unlimited habits.

That's what we're all about in Finding Personal Peace. Avoid the temptation to dismiss any idea that offers you a fulfilling life.

God bless,



P.S. Click here to learn more.

Alternatives to Personal Peace

There are a number of alternatives if we don’t pursue personal peace; that is, if we continue to let all the negative things we dwell on go unchecked.

Rumination on negative things inevitably lead to a number of increasingly serious issues.

• Depression – Contrary to popular therapy practice, we can’t think our way out of depression according to experts.


• Stress – Time magazine called it an epidemic


• Decision to escape


• Planning our escape


• Acting out our escape. This may lead to addictions, alternative forms of pain, separation, and worse.


• Guilt and shame


• Resolve to stop


• Declaration of normality

Think about your situation or think hypothetically for a moment.

Doesn't it seem that virtually all negative emotions and negative or destructive actions are triggered by thinking again and again on a painful event or experience.

The sad thing is that the painful event very often happened in the past, often many years in the past. Yet it keeps us trapped on the descending staircase or emotional pain.

So if you choose to continue denying yourself personal peace, the alternatives are bleak.

There is hope. I found a way out of some pretty intense anger using a technique that I document in Finding Personal Peace.

God bless,



P.S. To learn more, click here.

Self-Help? Not Again?

Kinda makes you cringe, doesn't it? Don't they know how many books you've bought; how many hours you've spent thinking about some suggestion or another; how many people who've told you, "You need to do thus and so?"

Of course, they don't know. They don't know that you really didn't read the books. They got boring after a couple of chapters. They don't know that NOT ONE of those self-help ideas worked. They just know how to tell you what to do. You want to say, "If your idea is so great, go help yourself."

And here I am suggesting another self-help idea. What's different?

Lots of self-help ideas are so academic it seems like they're designed more to make money for the author than to help solve your problems.

Some of the ideas tell you to "think" your way to where you need to be. Sometimes they want you to analyze your past or revisit all your painful events. Don't they know that the history is what you're trying to get away from.

Others elaborately develop an idea with all kinds of supporting material and examples. You finish the book or the video and then say, "Now what do I do?"

Some ideas are pretty radical; others just don't make sense; even more just aren't applicable to your situation.

So what's different in Finding Personal Peace?

(1) It's a simple idea. Just one concept.

(2) It's based on the wisdom of the ages from Confucius to Aristotle to St. Paul to modern authors like Dr. Richard Carlson and Ron Wilkins.

(3) It supports the idea with background information that makes sense.

(4) It's built on the way you work. It shows you how to take advantage of the wonderful way all of us are built.

(5) It gives you day-to-day support as you learn to BREAK old habits of pain and stress and MAKE a new habit of peace.

(6) It's free.

I'm suggesting from my own personal experience that by the time you finish these seven lessons over several weeks, you will find a personal peace that you never dreamed you would ever have again.

All the best,



P.S. If you want to know more about Finding Personal Peace, click here.

When Can You Quit Your Meds?

So when can you quit your meds? Lots of people absolutely hate their meds. They feel guilty taking them; they feel bad because of side effects; meds are expensive; it takes a professional to prescribe them; and often they don't do any good with making you a zombie. So people really hate meds.

Some websites tell you to quit your meds and just do what they want you to do. That doesn’t sound like too good an idea, do you think? Just quitting your meds can have some withdrawal effects that might not be pleasant.

You probably shouldn’t quit until you have a solution to your issues that is better than what the meds do for you.

That’s what we suggest in Finding Personal Peace. Lots of emotional issues are caused by constantly dwelling on painful experiences which results in reliving the pain again and again.

We show you how you can create moments, and then periods, and then fairly consistent peace in your life. And when you have peace, you can have clear thinking and you can make rational decisions about things like meds.

So, when do you quit your meds? You quit when you are able to make a calm, reasoned decision to approach your professional and ask him/her about quitting. If he/she sees your new peace, quitting the meds shouldn’t be an issue.

God bless,



P.S. For all the details, click here.

What Price Peace?

There are two ways to calculate the cost of peace. One is to look at the cost of not having peace. I don't know how to put a value of the cost of stress, depression, broken relationships, addictions, and mental duress caused by having strife in our life instead of peace.

Another factor in the cost is the loss of jobs and opportunities because our stress inhibits us from healthy functioning.

A third factor is the cost of treatment; hundreds per hour for consultation and hundreds more each month for meds.

So the negative cost of NO PEACE can be substantial.

What about the cost of achieving peace? I don't know all the options available to you. I do know one and the cost of that is free. I mean monetarily free. You'll have to invest time and energy into the on-line course but there's nothing out-of-pocket.

If you like formulas, look at it this way.

If the cost of achieving peace < the cost of not having peace

then you decide which is better for you.

God bless,

P.S. If you want to start your quest for Personal Peace today, click here.