Help Someone You Love Deal With Feeling Like A Loser Simply and Effectively

Do you think of yourself a loser? Everything you touch, or want, or love turns to disaster because you’re a loser. Life doesn’t have to be that way. You can find personal peace in a simple and effective way right there in the privacy of your home computer, laptop, iPad, or smart phone.

Does your life feel something like this?

No matter how hard I try, things just don't get any better. Sometimes I think about suicide. Nobody likes me at school or work. I’m ugly and fat. Why can’t I be pretty (or handsome) like the popular girls (or guys). Why don’t I just end it? Nobody cares anyway. Nobody understands me. Nobody wants to talk to me.

Similar scripts are played out countless times every day. Playing the script doesn’t mean that the person is really inept or fat or ugly or has no friends. It means that they think that all those things are true and the thinking makes it so.

The cause and effect rule doesn’t apply here. We reason that if we think it, it is true; even if there is no logical or factual reason for it to be true.

Your thoughts become your own worst enemy. Thoughts act as a downer on your emotions. Those thoughts can continue for many years. When you let those thoughts take away your ability to do what you need to do, it can create an unhealthy situation for you.

If you let those thoughts lead you to feeling like a loser, to becoming overwhelmed, or to being incapable of dealing with the required daily routine of life, it reinforces the idea that you’re a loser. You need to do something about it.

In a moment, you’ll see a very simple process you can use as often as you like to overcome your “loser” feelings. Because I don’t want to leave you upset, I’m going to tell you about it and then direct you to try it – after you know what to expect.

Most negative emotions, however mild or intense, are initiated by a thought. The thoughts are typically about something that has happened in the past. It other words, it’s a memory that is bothering you - that makes you feel like you blew it again.

Right now, I want you to pause and think about something that leaves you feeling like a loser. But DON’T dwell on it. Immediately say out loud to yourself, “I’m not going to think about that.” If the thought comes back, say it again.

You’ll discover that the negative thought will go away, maybe only for a moment at first. It will go away every time you demand that it go away.  

Getting over being a loser is so simple that many people have trouble accepting it. The most effective way to control negative thinking is to say to yourself, out loud, "I will not think about that." Do it as often as necessary and do it out loud.

In the absence of all the negative thinking, you’ll find more time where you are able to make good decisions about things that will help you become a winner.

Someone said, “That’s easier said than done.”

Not really. You have the innate authority to decide what you want to think about. If a thought causes you to feel like a loser, DON’T think that thought. It’s your choice. As you make that choice again and again, your subconscious remembers how you like to respond and will start to make your response automatically. It’s amazing how quickly this can happen.

Furthermore, you were made with a subconscious mind that has over time formed the opinion that you like dwelling on thoughts that make feel like a loser. The process of choosing not to dwell on those thoughts will, over time, convince your subconscious that you do not want to think about that those things anymore. It’s this process that creates the habit of peace and breaks the habit of being a loser.

At some point, you won't even realize you are thinking “loser” thoughts because your subconscious is automatically responding to the thoughts before they become conscious thoughts. How cool is that?

Nothing could be more effective than having your subconscious mind control your “loser” thinking for you before you even think about it.

Resources you can use

Help someone you love deal with feeling like a loser. Take 3 minutes to learn more at http://findingpersonalpeace.com/s011.

You can use this idea for just about any negative emotion or habit that bothers you including feeling like a loser.

I hope Finding Personal Peace helps you as much to stop feeling like a loser as it helped me with my anger.

Rod Peeks

Help Someone You Love Deal With Chronic Boredom Simply and Effectively

Are you always bored? Do you find yourself day-dreaming most of the time? Are things you need to do not getting done because you can’t focus because of boredom? Life doesn’t have to be that way. You can find personal peace in a simple and effective way right there in the privacy of your home computer, laptop, iPad, or smart phone.

Does your life feel something like this?

No matter how hard I try to focus, I keep thinking about other things. I’m so distracted that I can’t do the things I need to do. My mind is so cluttered with thoughts, sometimes I think I’m losing it. I’m at the point I don’t care anymore. I’m bored!

Similar scripts are played out countless times every day. Playing the script doesn’t mean that the person is really multi-tasking or superior. It means that they are often distracted by all the thoughts that flood our mind every day. We are so distracted that we often don’t get things done that need to be done.

Studies show that you have over 50,000 thoughts a day. And it seems like all of them are in your mind at the same time. Your thoughts become your own worst enemy. Your thoughts interrupt other thoughts.  They keep you from thinking about the things you need to think about. Maybe you use your thoughts as an excuse for NOT doing the things you need to do.  

You can just as easily be distracted by “good” thoughts that pop up at the wrong time.

If the distractions and boredom lead you to anxiety, to becoming chronically bored, or to being incapable of dealing with the daily routine of life; if you can begin to think that you’re a loser because you’re not achieving anything, you need to do something about it.

Boredom is not so much when you’re thinking about nothing; it most likely is when you’re thinking a little bit about everything and you don’t focus on any one thing enough to get engaged.

And since you don’t accomplish very much when you’re bored, you start to feel down on yourself.

Right now, I want you to pause and think about something that leaves you bored. But DON’T dwell on it. Immediately say out loud to yourself, out loud, “I’m not going to think about that.” If the thought comes back, say it again, out loud, , “I’m not going to think about that.”

You’ll quickly discover that the distracting thought disappear, maybe only for a moment at first. It will go away every time you demand that it go away.  When it reappears, you say again, out loud, “I’m not going to think about that.”

Dealing with boredom in this way is so simple that many people have trouble accepting it. The most effective way to control distracted thinking is to say to yourself, out loud, "I will not think about that." Do it as often as necessary and do it out loud.

Someone said, “That’s easier said than done.”

Not really. You have the innate authority to decide what you want to think about. If a thought bores you, DON’T think that thought. It’s your choice! As you make that choice again and again, your subconscious remembers how you like to respond and will start to make your response automatically.

The amazing side-effect of dealing with all these distracting and boring thoughts is that you will begin to have free time that you can use to accomplish the things that you need to do.

Furthermore, you have the gift of a subconscious mind that has over time formed the opinion that you like being bored. And your subconscious, the ever-faithful helper will give you more and more thoughts to distract you and help you be bored.

The process of choosing not to dwell on boring thoughts will, over time, convince your subconscious that you, in fact, do not like being bored. It’s this process that creates the habit of peace and breaks the habit of boredom.

At some point, you won't even realize you are thinking distracting and boring thoughts because your subconscious is automatically responding to the thoughts before they become conscious thoughts. How cool is that?

Nothing could be more effective than having your subconscious mind control your boredom before you even think about it.

Resources you can use

Help someone you love deal boredom simply and effectively. Take 3 minutes to learn more at http://findingpersonalpeace.com/s024.

You can use this idea for just about any negative emotion or habit that bothers you including boredom.

I hope Finding Personal Peace helps you with chronic boredom as much as it helped me with my anger.

Rod Peeks

Help Someone You Love Deal with Anxiety Simply and Effectively - Revisited

Anxiety destroys your peace. It doesn’t matter what you’re anxious about; if you’re anxious, you’re not happy. You can find personal peace in a simple and effective way right there in the privacy of your home computer, laptop, iPad, or smart phone.

Whether relationships, finances, layoffs, kids’ problems, or the threat of terrorism, there's plenty of anxiety around for everyone these days. Most of the time, we can’t do anything about the cause, but we can absolutely do something about how we react.

Anxiety is that "fight or flight" response that kept our ancestors safe from grizzly bears and other scary situations. It’s a natural reaction to life stresses. Adrenaline rushes into our system to prepare us to protect ourselves or run from danger. Anxiety is simply a natural reaction to those very real stresses.

Anxiety sufferers know that it doesn’t take an actual threat to trigger anxiety; just the thought of a threat triggers the hormones.

It doesn’t even have to be a real-time event. We can become anxious again and again by remembering and dwelling on thoughts of past events real or imagined.

Adrenaline causes a bit of a rush; so anxious people will often find other reasons to be anxious to prolong the rush. Worrying gives us the feeling that we’re doing something about the threat when in fact, we’re just spinning our wheels.

You become almost afraid to take a step. You're so nervous about the interview that you just don't go -- you miss the appointment. You think of all the reasons they won’t hire you leading to not getting the job and leading to more things to worry about.
Students will do a good report and then not turn it in because they think that the teacher won’t like it.
Anxious people don’t make good decisions. They avoid things. They let off-the-wall thoughts that distract them from the task. They can’t concentrate. They can’t focus. They can’t deal with the day-to-day of life.

It’s thinking about the issues that disables us with anxiety. If our mind weren’t churning, we would logically conclude that the worst thing that can come out of the interview is not getting the job, and we have another interview tomorrow. But we can't think that logically.

It’s the thinking that triggers anxiety. So the simple solution is to stop the thinking.

In a moment, you’ll see a very simple process you can use as often as you like to overcome your anxiety. Because I don’t want to leave you upset, I’m going to tell you about it and then direct you to try it – after you know what to expect.

Right now, I want you to pause and think about something that leaves you feeling really anxious. But DON’T dwell on it. Immediately say to yourself, out loud, “I’m not going to think about that.” If it recurs, say it again, “I’m not going to think about that.”

You’ll discover that the anxious thought will go away. It will go away every time you demand that it go away.  

This concept is so simple that many people have trouble accepting it. The most effective way to control anxious thinking is to say to yourself, out loud, "I will not think about that." Do it as often as necessary and do it out loud.

Someone said, “That’s easier said than done.”

Not really. You have the innate authority to decide what you want to think about. If a thought causes you anxiety, don’t think that thought. It’s your choice. As you make that choice again and again, your subconscious remembers how you like to respond and will start to make your response automatically. It’s amazing how quickly this can happen.

Furthermore, you were made with a subconscious mind that has over time formed the opinion that you like being anxious. Your subconscious will work overtime to give you all the thoughts it thinks you want to help you enjoy being anxious.

The process of choosing not to dwell on those thoughts will, over time, convince your subconscious that you do not want to think about that those things anymore. It’s this process that creates the habit of peace and breaks the habit of anxiety.

 The process of choosing not to dwell on those thoughts will, over time, convince your subconscious that you do not want to think about that those things anymore. It’s this process that creates the habit of peace and breaks the habit of anxiety.

At some point, you won't even realize you are thinking negative thoughts because your subconscious is automatically responding to the thoughts before they become conscious thoughts and before they cause anxiety.

Nothing could be more effective than having your subconscious mind handle your anxious thoughts for you before you even consciously think about it.

Resources you can use

If you could help someone you love deal with anxiety, would you take 3 minutes to learn more at http://findingpersonalpeace.com/s009?

You can use this idea for just about any negative emotion or habit that bothers you including anxiety.

I hope Finding Personal Peace helps with your anxiety as much as it helped me with my anger.

Rod Peeks

Help Someone You Love Deal with Lying Simply and Effectively

Deception and lying are rampant in our world today. This article shows way to deal with this behavior in a simple and effective way in the privacy of your home computer, laptop, iPad, or smart phone.

According to Psychology Today (http://www.psychologytoday.com), “studies show that the average person lies several times a day. Some of those are biggies: “I’ve been faithful to you.” Others are par for the course: “No, your new dress looks good.” Some forms of deception aren’t exactly lies: comb-overs, nodding when you’re not listening. And then there are lies we tell ourselves, as part of healthy self-esteem maintenance or serious delusions. In the end, it appears that we can’t handle the truth.”

Wikipedia show the extent of lying in our society with at least 28 examples, most of which most of us would consider harmless.

• Bad faith - A failure to acknowledge one's own ability to act, one's possibilities and one’sl imitations.
• Barefaced or bald-faced lie. A lie is one that is obviously a lie to those hearing it.
• Big Lie - A lie which attempts to trick the victim into believing something major often contrary to their common sense.
• Bluffing - Pretending to have a capability or intention one does not actually possess. This is not considered to be morally wrong in the context of a game, such as bluffing in a poker game.
• Bullshit is often used to make the audience believe that one knows far more about the topic that one actually knows.
• Butler lie – Often used to terminate conversations or to save face as in "I have to go, the waiter is here" or “Someone is at the door.”
• Contextual lie is stating part of the truth out of context, knowing that without complete information, it gives a false impression.
• Economy with the truth is either volunteering false information (i.e., lying) or by deliberately holding back relevant facts. It describes a careful use of facts so as not to reveal too much information, as in speaking carefully.
• Emergency lie - A strategic lie told when the truth may not be told because, for example, harm to a third party would result. For example, a neighbor might lie to an enraged husband about the whereabouts of his wife because the husband might reasonably be expected to inflict physical injury to his wife in person.
• Exaggeration (hyperbole) - the most fundamental aspects of a statement are true, but only to a certain degree. It is also seen as "stretching the truth."
• Fabrication - Submitting a statement as truth, without knowing for certain whether or not it actually is true or not based on facts.
• Fib - A lie told with no malicious intent and little consequence.
• Half-truth - A deceptive statement that includes some element of truth or it might be partly true.
• Haystack answer - A volume of false or irrelevant information, possibly containing a true fact (the needle in the "haystack").
• Honest lie - Verbal statements or actions that inaccurately describe history, background, and present situations with no intent to deceive and the individual is unaware that their information is false.
• Jocose (jocular) lie – A statement meant in jest, intended to be understood as such by all present parties. Teasing and irony are examples.
• Lie-to-children – Lies commonly told to make an adult subject acceptable to children such as "The stork brought you" (in reference to childbirth) and the existence of Santa Claus, the Tooth Fairy or the Easter Bunny.
• Lying by omission – This lie occurs when an important fact is left out in order to foster a misconception.
• Lying in trade - Untrue facts about the product or service that are told in order to gain sales, especially by competitive advantage.
• Lying through your teeth – Lying face-to-face with the intended recipient; also lying with a smile or other patronizing tone or body language.
• Minimization - The opposite of exaggeration and involves denial coupled with rationalization in situations where complete denial is implausible.
• Misleading and Dissembling - There is no outright lie, but still retains the purpose of getting someone to believe in an untruth. Dissembling likewise describes the presentation of facts in a way that is literally true, but intentionally misleading.
• Noble lie - One that would normally cause discord if uncovered, but offers some benefit to the liar and assists in an orderly society, therefore, potentially beneficial to others. It is often told to maintain law, order and safety.
• Perjury - The act of lying or making verifiably false statements on a material matter under oath or affirmation in a court of law, or in any of various sworn statements in writing. Perjury is a crime, because the witness has sworn to tell the truth and, for the credibility of the court to remain intact, witness testimony must be relied on as truthful.
• Polite lie - A lie that a politeness standard requires, and which is usually known to be untrue by both parties such as declining invitations because of "scheduling difficulties."
• Puffery - An exaggerated claim typically found in advertising and publicity announcements, such as "the highest quality at the lowest price," or "always votes in the best interest of all the people."
• View from Nowhere - Refers to journalism and analysis that misinform the audience by creating the impression that opposing parties to an issue have equal correctness and validity, even when the truth of their claims are mutually exclusive.
• White lie - Minor lies which could be considered to be harmless, or even beneficial, in the long term. White lies are also considered to be used for greater good. Examples might be “It’s so good to see you” and “What a lovely dress you’re wearing today,” when to speak the truth would cause embarrassment or pain.

I’ve included all these definitions because I found them interesting and illuminating.

Lying knowingly may cause anxiety, guilt, or self-esteem issues; even though lying is often used to compensate for low self-esteem.

Whatever the degree of your lying, if it’s causing you some anxiety and that anxiety is preventing you from doing good things for yourself; such as rationally considering options and making good decisions, you need to deal with your habit of lying.

If your lying is costing you the respect of business, professional, or social peers, you need to deal with your habit of lying.

Effectively dealing in truth instead of lies is essential for good relationships and for your emotional peace. If you struggle with the lying too long, it may become harmful to you.

Every lie is triggered by a thought and by your decision to respond with something less than the truth. Such thoughts can cause anxiety, guilt, shame, and a crowd of other emotions. If your reaction to the thoughts causes you enough emotional stress, it can be harmful to you and you need to deal with it.

Right now, I want you to pause and think about the thought that initiated the last lie you told. But DON’T dwell on it. Immediately say to yourself, out loud, “I’m not going to think about that.” If it recurs, say it again, “I’m not going to think about that.”

You’ll discover that the thought causing you to think about lying will go away every time you demand that it go away.  

This solution for lying is so simple that many people have trouble accepting it. The most effective way to control lying is to say to yourself, out loud, "I will not think about that." Do it as often as necessary and do it out loud.

Someone said, “That’s easier said than done.”

Not really. You have the innate authority to decide what you want to think about. If a thought makes you consider lying, don’t think that thought. It’s your choice! As you make that choice again and again, your subconscious remembers how you like to respond and will start to make your chosen response automatically. It’s amazing how quickly this can happen.

Furthermore, you were made with a subconscious mind that has over time formed the opinion that you like to lie. To be helpful to you, your subconscious gives you all the thoughts it can to reinforce what you like to think about – lying and deception.

The process of choosing not to dwell on those thoughts will, over time, convince your subconscious that you do not want to be like that anymore. It’s this process that creates the habit of peace and breaks the habit of lying.

At some point, you won't even realize you are thinking lie-inducing thoughts because your subconscious is automatically responding to the thoughts before they become conscious thoughts.

When you begin to have periods of peace instead of anxiety about lying, you are in a position to make better decisions about other life issues as appropriate.

Nothing could be more effective than having your subconscious mind respond to your anxiety about lying for you before you even consciously think about it. How cool is that?

Resources you can use

Help someone you love deal with lying simply and effectively. Check it out at http://findingpersonalpeace.com/s038.

You can use this idea for just about any negative emotion or habit that bothers you in addition to dealing with lying.

I hope Finding Personal Peace helps you with lying issues as much as it helped me with my anger.

Rod Peeks

www.findingpersonalpeace.com/s038

Help Someone You Love Deal With Being an Abuser Simply and Effectively

Perpetrators of abuse are often driven to act out their anger on others – on their victims. It may take professional help to deal with deep-seated issues. Or it may not. You can find personal peace in a simple and effective way right there in the privacy of your home computer, laptop, iPad, or smart phone.

If you’re an abuser . . .

• You may demonstrate impulsive behavior. Very likely there is little thought given to the consequences of their behavior. Some simple trigger may have caused the thought that resulted in abuse.
• You may exhibit rapid mood changes that may result in violent behavior. A word or action may trigger the thought the ends in abuse.
• You may be chronically depressed. Rational thought may be overwhelmed by the depression. Some thought in the darkness of depression may be the trigger of abuse.
• You may be trying to transfer some of your pain to your victims. Again there would almost always be negative thoughts feeding the depression and the abuse.

A suicidal abuser may rationalize that since he’s probably going to die anyway, it may be easier to abuse. What’s to lose?

A victim of abuse is much more likely to become an abuser. You excuse your actions by rationalizing that you can’t help it.

Drugs and alcohol may lead to abusive behavior. The desire to drink or use drugs usually begins with some thought or desire and is often used as an excuse for the behavior.

A spousal abuser may use the excuse that the thought of the shame of separation justifies the use of force to keep the spouse under their power.

A common thread in all these examples is that a thought serves as a trigger to the abusive act. If the abuser is so inclined, he/she can probably predict the buildup to an abusive episode by recognizing those thoughts that serve as triggers.

The simple fact is that the abuser can recognize the thought and make the decision to NOT think that thought.

You will soon discover that the negative thought leading to abuse will go away. It will go away every time you demand that it go away.  

If you're an abuser, this solution is so simple that many people have trouble accepting it. The most effective way to control the negative thinking that leads to abusing someone is to say to yourself, out loud, "I will not to think about that." Do it as often as necessary and do it out loud, "I will not to think about that."

Someone said, “That’s easier said than done.”

Not really. You have the built-in authority to decide what you want to think about. If you recognize a thought that typically leads to abusing someone, don’t think that thought. It’s your choice. In the moments of clarity that comes in the absence of that thought, it’s possible to remove yourself from the situation to avoid abusing someone.

As you make that choice again and again, your subconscious remembers how you like to respond and will start to make your response automatically. It’s amazing how quickly this can happen.

Furthermore, you were made with a subconscious mind that has over time formed the opinion that you like being an abuser. And your ever-helpful subconscious will continue to give you thoughts that it thinks you like.

The process of choosing not to dwell on those thoughts will, over time, convince your subconscious that you do not want to think about that those things anymore. It’s this process that creates the habit of peace and breaks the habit of hurting others.

At some point, you won't even realize you are thinking negative thoughts because your subconscious is automatically responding to the thoughts before they become conscious thoughts.

Nothing could be more effective than having your subconscious mind handle your abusive thoughts for you before you even think about it.

Resources you can use

Help someone you love deal with being an abuser. Take 3 minutes to learn more at http://findingpersonalpeace.com/s008.

If you need help dealing with being an abuser, click http://findingpersonalpeace.com/student/hotlines.pdf to find resources that can help you.

You can use this idea for just about any negative emotion or habit that bothers you including being an abuser.

I hope Finding Personal Peace helps you as much with being an abuser as it helped me with my anger.

Rod Peeks

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Help Someone You Love Deal with Abuse Simply and Effectively

Victims of ongoing abuse really should get help immediately.
There’s a link in the resource area at the bottom to help you find assistance in protecting yourself. If the abuse has ended but the memories persist, you can find personal peace in a simple and effective way right there in the privacy of your home computer, laptop, iPad, or smart phone.

You’re not alone if you carry deeply embedded memories of past abuse. These memories make the recollection almost as painful as the original offense.

Abuse is particularly destructive because it touches so many areas in our lives.

1. It’s a trust issue when someone in whom we trusted betrayed us by abusing us.
2. It’s a fear issue when we worry about a recurrence of the abuse even though it may have been years ago.
3. It’s a self-esteem issue when we blame ourselves for somehow bringing the abuse upon ourselves or for making our abuser angry.
4. It’s an anger issue when rage against the outrage against us becomes overwhelming.
5. It’s a relationship issue when the violence done against us blocks our ability to have intimacy with another person even though they weren't part of the abuse.

The abuse may have occurred in a place that we expected to be secure: in our home, in our marriage or relationship; in the school yard. This is particularly offensive because it damages our ability to trust again.

The abuse may have been perpetrated by a total stranger. This leaves us with a very small comfort zone which may in fact be a room or a chair or bed. It may leave us afraid to speak our opinion for fear a recurrence of domestic abuse.

All these reactions are triggered by a thought that brings the abusive act to the front of our attention once again. The thought could be triggered by a word, a smell, a sound, almost anything.

If we let those thoughts of abuse lead us to anxiety, to becoming overwhelmed, or to being incapable of dealing with the required daily routine of life, we need to do something about it.

In a moment, you’ll see a very simple process you can use as often as you like to overcome your abuse-inspired anxiety. Because I don’t want to leave you upset, I’m going to tell you about it and then direct you to try it – after you know what to expect.

I have probably caused some negative emotions especially if you are the victim of past abuse. I want to do say to yourself, out loud, right now, “I’m not going to think about that.” If it recurs, say it again; and again, and again. “I’m not going to think about that.”

You’ll soon discover that the negative thoughts of being abused will diminish and even disappear over a period of time. They will go away every time you demand that they go away.

You can deal with abuse anxiety in a way so simple that many people have trouble accepting it. The most effective way to control negative thinking is to say to yourself, out loud, "I will not to think about that." Do it as often as necessary every time a thought pops up that typically causes you pain.

Someone said, “That’s easier said than done.”

Not really. You have the innate authority to decide what you want to think about. If a thought causes you pain, don’t think that thought! It’s your choice. As you make that choice again and again, your subconscious remembers how you like to respond and will start to make your response automatically.

This can become automatic in days or weeks.

Furthermore, you were made with a subconscious mind that has over time formed the opinion that you like thinking about your abuse. Your subconscious, being ever helpful, will continue to give you thoughts to help you do what it thinks you like to do, think about abuse.

The process of choosing not to dwell on those thoughts will, over time, convince your subconscious that you do not want to think about that those things anymore. It’s this process that creates the habit of peace and breaks the habit of victimness.

At some point, you won't even realize you are thinking negative thoughts because your subconscious is automatically responding to the thoughts before they become conscious thoughts.

Nothing could be more effective than having your subconscious mind handle your abuse anxiety for you before you even think about it.

Resources you can use

If someone you love could deal with abuse effectively, would you take 3 minutes to learn more at http://findingpersonalpeace.com/s007?

You can use this idea for just about any negative emotion or habit that bothers you including dealing with abuse.

If you need help with an ongoing abuse situation, click http://findingpersonalpeace.com/student/hotlines.pdf to find resources that can help you.

I hope Finding Personal Peace helps you in dealing with your abuse anxiety as much as it helped me with my anger.

Rod Peeks

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Help Someone You Love Find Personal Peace Simply and Effectively

Life can be so frustrating at times. Distractions, lack of commitment, feeling rejected, entertaining too much mental chatter, prevailing sadness, and all sorts of negative emotions can become overwhelming. At its least, lack of peace can diminish our effectiveness. At its worst, it can be completely debilitating. You can find personal peace in a simple and effective way right there in the privacy of your home computer, laptop, iPad, or smart phone.

Do you ever feel like you’re being pulled this way and pushed that way? Do you have way too many unfinished projects because of distractions? Do you find important study, work, or meditation interrupted by other equally important thoughts that are interrupting you at the wrong time?

Is frustrating anxiety or listlessness the rule in your life instead of the exception? Do you feel like life is passing you by . . . like there are places you should be and things you should be doing that you just can’t quite accomplish?

Are you dealing with habits that leave you annoyed and down on yourself?

What we’re trying to describe is a general lack of peace.

If this becomes acute, resulting in depression or worse, it can be quite disconcerting and you should consider what I’m going to say next.

A common element in the lack of peace is a thought that acts as a downer on your emotions. These thoughts can continue for many years. When we let those thoughts take away our ability to do what we need to do, it can create an unhealthy situation for you.

If we let those thoughts lead us to anxiety, to becoming overwhelmed, or to being incapable of dealing with the required daily routine of life, we need to do something about it.

In a moment, you’ll see a very simple process you can use as often as you like to overcome your extended grief. Because I don’t want to leave you upset, I’m going to tell you about it and then direct you to try it – after you know what to expect.

Most negative emotions, however mild or intense, are initiated by a thought. The thoughts are typically about something that has happened in the past. It other words, it’s a memory, not reality, that is bothering us.

Right now, I want you to pause and think about something that leaves you feeling negative. But DON’T dwell on it. Immediately say to yourself, out loud, “I’m not going to think about that.” If it recurs, say it again

You’ll soon discover that the negative thought will go away. It will go away every time you demand that it go away.

You can deal with personal peace in such a simple way that many people have trouble accepting it. The most effective way to control negative thinking that steals your peace is to say to yourself, out loud, "I will not to think about that." Do it as often as necessary and do it out loud. Repeat as necessary - "I will not to think about that."

Someone said, “That’s easier said than done.”

Not really. You have the innate authority to decide what you want to think about. If a thought steals your peace, don’t think that thought. It’s your choice. As you make that choice again and again, your subconscious remembers how you like to respond and will start to make your response automatically. It’s amazing how quickly this can happen.

Furthermore, you were made with a subconscious mind that has over time formed the opinion that you like being frustrated and upset. To accommodate what you like to do, your subconscious will continue to give your frustrating thoughts.

The process of choosing not to dwell on those thoughts will, over time, convince your subconscious that you do not want to think about that those things anymore. It’s this process that creates the habit of peace and breaks the habit of frustration and anxiety.

At that point, you won't even realize you are thinking negative thoughts. Before they become conscious thoughts, you handle them subconsciously.

At some point, you won't even realize you are thinking negative thoughts because your subconscious is automatically responding to the thoughts before they become conscious thoughts.

Resources you can use

If someone you love could Find Personal Peace, would you take 3 minutes to learn more at http://findingpersonalpeace.com/s006?

You can use this idea for just about any negative emotion or habit that bothers you including needing more peace.

I hope Finding Personal Peace helps you find as much peace as it did for me!

Rod Peeks

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