Help Someone you Love Deal with Fear and Phobias Simply and Effectively

Almost everybody is afraid of something. 

Fear and phobia are rampant today. At its least, fear can cause mild emotional discomfort. At its worst, it can be completely debilitating. You can deal with your fear and phobias in a simple and effective way in the privacy of your home computer, laptop, iPad, or smart phone.

How many hit movies play on fear and phobias? My generation had Psycho, The Birds, and I Saw What You Did. Later there was Texas Chainsaw Massacre, Deliverance, and Misery. This form of fear can be fun because it is exhilarating and it titillates the “fight or flight” adrenal hormone surge.

Fear and Phobias can also render us incapable of any rational action; they can even make us speechless and incapable of any reaction whatsoever.

Some people are petrified by spiders and needles. Others react emotionally to unexpected noises. The fear of falling and the fear of crowds are common. One reaction may be just to lower our eyes and forge ahead. The other extreme is an all-out panic attack. Maybe you've had both reactions.

Common to most fears and phobias is the thought that something dreadful is going to happen.

Common treatment is to lead us to face our fears and work through them. The treatment itself can be terrifying to someone already in the grasp of irrational fears and phobias.

Each episode of fear or phobia is initiated by a thought. Very often those thoughts derive from myths, superstitions or memories. There is usually very little on-going factual basis for the fear or phobia. Something terrible or something simply embarrassing may have happened in the past, but it’s not likely that it’s happening today.

So right now I want you to pause and think about something that makes you afraid. But DON’T dwell on it. Immediately say to yourself, out loud, “I’m not going to think about that.” If it recurs, say it again, out loud, “I’m not going to think about that.”

You’ll discover that the frightening thought will go away. It will go away every time you demand that it go away.

We’re recommending a way of dealing with fears and phobias that is so simple that many people have trouble accepting it. The most effective way to control the fear-inducing negative thinking is to say to yourself, out loud, "I will not think about that." Do it as often as necessary and say it out loud; "I will not think about that."

Someone said, “That’s easier said than done.”

Not really. You have the innate authority to decide what you want to think about. If a thought makes you afraid, don’t think that thought. It’s your choice! As you make that choice again and again, your subconscious remembers how you like to respond and will start to make your response automatically. It’s amazing how quickly this can happen.

Furthermore, you were made with a subconscious mind that has over time formed the opinion that you like being afraid. To accommodate your likes and dislikes, your subconscious tries to give you more and more thoughts that lead to fear.

The process of choosing not to dwell on those thoughts will, over time, convince your subconscious that you do not want to think about that those things anymore. It’s this process that creates the habit of peace and breaks the habit of fear.

At some point, you won't even realize you are thinking fearful thoughts because your subconscious handles them before they become conscious thoughts.

Nothing could be more effective than having your subconscious mind handle your fear for you before you even think about it.

Resources you can use

Help someone you love deal effectively with fears and phobias. Take 3 minutes to learn more it at http://findingpersonalpeace.com/s004.

You can use this idea for just about any negative emotion or habit that bothers you.

I hope Finding Personal Peace helps you with your fear and phobias as much as it helped me with my anger.

Rod Peeks

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