Help Someone You Love Deal With Feeling Like A Loser Simply and Effectively

Do you think of yourself a loser? Everything you touch, or want, or love turns to disaster because you’re a loser. Life doesn’t have to be that way. You can find personal peace in a simple and effective way right there in the privacy of your home computer, laptop, iPad, or smart phone.

Does your life feel something like this?

No matter how hard I try, things just don't get any better. Sometimes I think about suicide. Nobody likes me at school or work. I’m ugly and fat. Why can’t I be pretty (or handsome) like the popular girls (or guys). Why don’t I just end it? Nobody cares anyway. Nobody understands me. Nobody wants to talk to me.

Similar scripts are played out countless times every day. Playing the script doesn’t mean that the person is really inept or fat or ugly or has no friends. It means that they think that all those things are true and the thinking makes it so.

The cause and effect rule doesn’t apply here. We reason that if we think it, it is true; even if there is no logical or factual reason for it to be true.

Your thoughts become your own worst enemy. Thoughts act as a downer on your emotions. Those thoughts can continue for many years. When you let those thoughts take away your ability to do what you need to do, it can create an unhealthy situation for you.

If you let those thoughts lead you to feeling like a loser, to becoming overwhelmed, or to being incapable of dealing with the required daily routine of life, it reinforces the idea that you’re a loser. You need to do something about it.

In a moment, you’ll see a very simple process you can use as often as you like to overcome your “loser” feelings. Because I don’t want to leave you upset, I’m going to tell you about it and then direct you to try it – after you know what to expect.

Most negative emotions, however mild or intense, are initiated by a thought. The thoughts are typically about something that has happened in the past. It other words, it’s a memory that is bothering you - that makes you feel like you blew it again.

Right now, I want you to pause and think about something that leaves you feeling like a loser. But DON’T dwell on it. Immediately say out loud to yourself, “I’m not going to think about that.” If the thought comes back, say it again.

You’ll discover that the negative thought will go away, maybe only for a moment at first. It will go away every time you demand that it go away.  

Getting over being a loser is so simple that many people have trouble accepting it. The most effective way to control negative thinking is to say to yourself, out loud, "I will not think about that." Do it as often as necessary and do it out loud.

In the absence of all the negative thinking, you’ll find more time where you are able to make good decisions about things that will help you become a winner.

Someone said, “That’s easier said than done.”

Not really. You have the innate authority to decide what you want to think about. If a thought causes you to feel like a loser, DON’T think that thought. It’s your choice. As you make that choice again and again, your subconscious remembers how you like to respond and will start to make your response automatically. It’s amazing how quickly this can happen.

Furthermore, you were made with a subconscious mind that has over time formed the opinion that you like dwelling on thoughts that make feel like a loser. The process of choosing not to dwell on those thoughts will, over time, convince your subconscious that you do not want to think about that those things anymore. It’s this process that creates the habit of peace and breaks the habit of being a loser.

At some point, you won't even realize you are thinking “loser” thoughts because your subconscious is automatically responding to the thoughts before they become conscious thoughts. How cool is that?

Nothing could be more effective than having your subconscious mind control your “loser” thinking for you before you even think about it.

Resources you can use

Help someone you love deal with feeling like a loser. Take 3 minutes to learn more at http://findingpersonalpeace.com/s011.

You can use this idea for just about any negative emotion or habit that bothers you including feeling like a loser.

I hope Finding Personal Peace helps you as much to stop feeling like a loser as it helped me with my anger.

Rod Peeks