Help Someone You Love Deal with Anxiety Simply and Effectively - Revisited

Anxiety destroys your peace. It doesn’t matter what you’re anxious about; if you’re anxious, you’re not happy. You can find personal peace in a simple and effective way right there in the privacy of your home computer, laptop, iPad, or smart phone.

Whether relationships, finances, layoffs, kids’ problems, or the threat of terrorism, there's plenty of anxiety around for everyone these days. Most of the time, we can’t do anything about the cause, but we can absolutely do something about how we react.

Anxiety is that "fight or flight" response that kept our ancestors safe from grizzly bears and other scary situations. It’s a natural reaction to life stresses. Adrenaline rushes into our system to prepare us to protect ourselves or run from danger. Anxiety is simply a natural reaction to those very real stresses.

Anxiety sufferers know that it doesn’t take an actual threat to trigger anxiety; just the thought of a threat triggers the hormones.

It doesn’t even have to be a real-time event. We can become anxious again and again by remembering and dwelling on thoughts of past events real or imagined.

Adrenaline causes a bit of a rush; so anxious people will often find other reasons to be anxious to prolong the rush. Worrying gives us the feeling that we’re doing something about the threat when in fact, we’re just spinning our wheels.

You become almost afraid to take a step. You're so nervous about the interview that you just don't go -- you miss the appointment. You think of all the reasons they won’t hire you leading to not getting the job and leading to more things to worry about.
Students will do a good report and then not turn it in because they think that the teacher won’t like it.
Anxious people don’t make good decisions. They avoid things. They let off-the-wall thoughts that distract them from the task. They can’t concentrate. They can’t focus. They can’t deal with the day-to-day of life.

It’s thinking about the issues that disables us with anxiety. If our mind weren’t churning, we would logically conclude that the worst thing that can come out of the interview is not getting the job, and we have another interview tomorrow. But we can't think that logically.

It’s the thinking that triggers anxiety. So the simple solution is to stop the thinking.

In a moment, you’ll see a very simple process you can use as often as you like to overcome your anxiety. Because I don’t want to leave you upset, I’m going to tell you about it and then direct you to try it – after you know what to expect.

Right now, I want you to pause and think about something that leaves you feeling really anxious. But DON’T dwell on it. Immediately say to yourself, out loud, “I’m not going to think about that.” If it recurs, say it again, “I’m not going to think about that.”

You’ll discover that the anxious thought will go away. It will go away every time you demand that it go away.  

This concept is so simple that many people have trouble accepting it. The most effective way to control anxious thinking is to say to yourself, out loud, "I will not think about that." Do it as often as necessary and do it out loud.

Someone said, “That’s easier said than done.”

Not really. You have the innate authority to decide what you want to think about. If a thought causes you anxiety, don’t think that thought. It’s your choice. As you make that choice again and again, your subconscious remembers how you like to respond and will start to make your response automatically. It’s amazing how quickly this can happen.

Furthermore, you were made with a subconscious mind that has over time formed the opinion that you like being anxious. Your subconscious will work overtime to give you all the thoughts it thinks you want to help you enjoy being anxious.

The process of choosing not to dwell on those thoughts will, over time, convince your subconscious that you do not want to think about that those things anymore. It’s this process that creates the habit of peace and breaks the habit of anxiety.

 The process of choosing not to dwell on those thoughts will, over time, convince your subconscious that you do not want to think about that those things anymore. It’s this process that creates the habit of peace and breaks the habit of anxiety.

At some point, you won't even realize you are thinking negative thoughts because your subconscious is automatically responding to the thoughts before they become conscious thoughts and before they cause anxiety.

Nothing could be more effective than having your subconscious mind handle your anxious thoughts for you before you even consciously think about it.

Resources you can use

If you could help someone you love deal with anxiety, would you take 3 minutes to learn more at http://findingpersonalpeace.com/s009?

You can use this idea for just about any negative emotion or habit that bothers you including anxiety.

I hope Finding Personal Peace helps with your anxiety as much as it helped me with my anger.

Rod Peeks