Help Someone You Love Deal with Depression Simply and Effectively

Depression is like being trapped in darkness with no spark of hope anywhere. It makes any relationship virtually impossible to maintain. You can deal with your depression in a simple and effective way in the privacy of your home computer, laptop, iPad, or smart phone.

Ron Wilkins, in his book, Removing Emotional Pain, describes depression as the natural consequence of dwelling on negative thoughts. Unchecked, it inevitably leads to more dangerous emotional and health situations.

Depression can be equally frustrating to those who are around you. They can see all kinds of answers all around you; but you can’t see them in your self-imposed darkness. It’s self-defeating. They see solutions and may tend to blame you because you can’t see them too.

Depression is an emotional downer that can make the simple acts of getting out of bed too much to handle. It can lead to masking behaviors such as drinking or drugs. Intellectually, you know those things are destructive but at least you’re not forced to deal with your negative thoughts when you’re under the influence.

Popular approaches can include meds to lift your mood while encouraging you to relive the painful experiences that caused your depression in the first place.

If, as Wilkins claims, depression is the result of “dwelling on negative thoughts,” then the simple answer is “don’t dwell on negative thoughts!” Such thoughts are the ones that occur over and over again without any real-time provocation. The thoughts are an emotional response, a memory, of a painful event suffered in the past - sometimes many years in the past. When these memories pop into your mind as negative thoughts; and we mentally chew or ruminate on them; it can become just like the original incident all over again and you can become depressed.

But, it’s all thoughts and recollections. It’s not happening all over again in most cases – it’s a memory.

The answer to depression is so simple that many people have trouble accepting it. The most effective way to control the negative thinking that results in recurring depression is "simply choose not to think about it."

When a negative thought that usually leads to depression pops into your mind, simply say to yourself out loud, “I will not think about that.” Do it again if the idea pops up again: “I will not think about that.”

When a negative thought questions your worth, simply say to yourself out loud, “I will not think about that.”

When a negative thought tells you that you are a loser, simply say to yourself out loud, “I will not think about that.”

Someone said, “That’s easier said than done.”

Not really. You have the innate authority to decide what you want to think about. If a thought makes you depressed, don’t think that thought. It’s your choice. As you make that choice again and again, your subconscious remembers how you like to respond and will start to make your response automatically. It’s amazing how quickly this can happen.

Furthermore, you were made with a subconscious mind that has over time formed the opinion that you like being depressed. So its response is to give you more and more selected thoughts to help you be depressed.

The process of choosing not to dwell on those thoughts will, over time, convince your subconscious that you do not want to think about that those things anymore. It’s this process that creates the habit of peace and breaks the habit of depression.

At some point, you won't even realize you are thinking depressing thoughts because your subconscious is automatically responding to the thoughts before they become conscious thoughts.

Nothing could be more effective than having your subconscious mind handle your depression for you before you even think about it.

Resources you can use

Help someone you love deal effectively with depression. Take 3 minutes to learn more at http://findingpersonalpeace.com/s002.

You can use this idea for just about any negative emotion or habit that bothers you including depression.

I hope Finding Personal Peace helps you with your depression as much as it helped me with my anger.

Rod Peeks

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